The way to get around [anxiety about lack]... is to increase our awareness of abundance. If you embark ... in a mind-set emphasizing lack, you'll create a scarcity response.... The best way to [deal with] this is to dive into an overcrowded area [of your life] and wallow for a while. (Beck)
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Monday, October 24, 2011
If it comes up again...
About thoughts - "If is comes up again, so what? It's just a thought... it belongs to you as much as the (perception) of that tree out there." Sedona Living Love Class (2010, recording 10)
Thumbprint
Each of us is born with a propensity to have fun doing certain types of activities, in certain proportions—you may love doing something I hate and vice versa. I call the pattern of activities you most enjoy your "funprint," and like your thumbprint it's unique. It seems obvious to me (and research backs me up) that we are most productive, persistent, creative, and flexible when we're engaged in precisely the combination of activities that brings us maximum fun. Your funprint isn't a frivolous indulgence. It is the map of your true life, an instruction manual for your essential purpose, written in the language of joy. Learning to read and respond to it is one of the most crucial things you'll ever do.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
pema chadron bit
"There's another story that you may have read that has to do with what we call heaven and hell, life and death, good and bad. It's a story about how those things don't really exist except as a creation of our own minds
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It goes like this: A big burly samurai comes to the wise man and says, "Tell me the nature of heaven and hell." And the roshi looks him in the face and says: "why should I tell a scruffy disgusting, miserable slob like you?" The samurai starts to get purple in the face,... consumed by rage, the samurai draws his sword, and he's just about to cut off the head of the roshi.
Then the roshi says "That's hell." The samurai, who is in fact a sensitive person, instantly gets it, that he just created his own hell; he was deep in hell. It was black and hot, filled with hatred, self-protection, anger and resentment, so much so that he was going to kill this man. Tears fill his eyes and he starts to cry and he puts his palms together and the roshi says "That's heaven."
... Hell is just resistance to life. When you want to say no to the situation you are in, it's fine to say no, but when you build up a big case to point where you're so convinced that you would draw your sword and cut off someone's head, that kind of resistance to life is hell."
From Wisdom of No Escape (Chapter 7- Taking a Bigger Perspective)
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It goes like this: A big burly samurai comes to the wise man and says, "Tell me the nature of heaven and hell." And the roshi looks him in the face and says: "why should I tell a scruffy disgusting, miserable slob like you?" The samurai starts to get purple in the face,... consumed by rage, the samurai draws his sword, and he's just about to cut off the head of the roshi.
Then the roshi says "That's hell." The samurai, who is in fact a sensitive person, instantly gets it, that he just created his own hell; he was deep in hell. It was black and hot, filled with hatred, self-protection, anger and resentment, so much so that he was going to kill this man. Tears fill his eyes and he starts to cry and he puts his palms together and the roshi says "That's heaven."
... Hell is just resistance to life. When you want to say no to the situation you are in, it's fine to say no, but when you build up a big case to point where you're so convinced that you would draw your sword and cut off someone's head, that kind of resistance to life is hell."
From Wisdom of No Escape (Chapter 7- Taking a Bigger Perspective)
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
anxiety control - breathing
When you are anxious, you tend to breathe shallowly, using your upper chest muscles. ... Controlled breathing is a technique that you can use to counteract this stress response and induce a state of calm within 3 to 5 minutes.
Use the following steps:
Note:
Use the following steps:
- Lie on your back, placing one hand over your heart and the other on your abdomen.
- Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose for a count of 4.
- Watch the hand on your abdomen rise as you fill your lungs with air, expanding your chest. (The hand over your heart should barely move, if at all.)
- Hold your breath for a count of 4.
- Exhale slowly through the mouth or nose for a count of 4.
- Repeat for 10 full breaths. Work up to 2 or 3 sets of 10 breaths each.
Note:
- Stop if you feel faint or dizzy.
- Concentrate while inhaling on filling the lower portion of the lungs.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
questions
What would you like your theme to be? living, loving, creativity
What are you longing for? What gets in your way? connection - fear of my own anxiety and want to control to feel safe.
What do YOU want? What do you REALLY want? connection. LOVE!
What’s one little thing that could make a really BIG difference in your life? penny game for reactions.
What are you longing for? What gets in your way? connection - fear of my own anxiety and want to control to feel safe.
What do YOU want? What do you REALLY want? connection. LOVE!
What’s one little thing that could make a really BIG difference in your life? penny game for reactions.
hakomi tidbit excerprts
by Adama Hamilton (Ron Kurtz Hakomi Instititute)
Often stress results in a narrowing and activation of old patterns of behavior ... learned as a child or young person and not necessarily helpful to a mature adult friendship or loving relationship.... When we nurture and care for our inner child first or when it is hurting, our interactions with others take on a completely different shape and form....When we do not let go and move forward we can become “stuck” and instead of expanding we contract... it becomes very difficult to live the life that we may have dreamed of having... One of our main focuses is assisting in the letting go of unnecessary suffering, and becoming more connected to higher sources of wisdom and knowing.
Often stress results in a narrowing and activation of old patterns of behavior ... learned as a child or young person and not necessarily helpful to a mature adult friendship or loving relationship.... When we nurture and care for our inner child first or when it is hurting, our interactions with others take on a completely different shape and form....When we do not let go and move forward we can become “stuck” and instead of expanding we contract... it becomes very difficult to live the life that we may have dreamed of having... One of our main focuses is assisting in the letting go of unnecessary suffering, and becoming more connected to higher sources of wisdom and knowing.
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