Mutuality - any communication of a story must be balanced. So, if the listener is happy for the teller to tell the story then that is ok. If the listener is not happy to listen then the teller must understand that and maybe not continue as long.
If there is 'Space Created' to tell the story (provided by a listener) it can lead to more emotions coming up to release on.
'Discriminate' – If the story is harming you, you dislike it or, it is draining your energy in any way (or feels that way). Get out of the situation if necessary or release on it of course. If it is positive then let it continue and keep listening if comfortable with it.
Look at the 'Underlying Wants' if you want to exit a situation, or stay and welcome whatever comes up etc etc
Be 'Authentic' and 'Speak Your Own Truth'- If a story is becoming uncomfortable then be honest and say this. Don't say you are cool to listen for hours if you don't want to. Remember mutuality!
If someone in your life is venting and telling the same story continually on more than one occasion and thus stuck there ... and the feeling is not one of mutuality ... and/or draining you - then limit the time you will listen, tell them you cannot listen for hours, but if they would like some help to release the story, you will assist. If they do not want assistance and just to tell the story then [you can] leave the conversation or communication.
